Monday, September 30, 2013
Adoption Movie Guide: Curly Top
Cinemas in the 1930’s featured the adorable antics of the prototypical
child star, Shirley Temple. Her blonde curly hair, joyful smile, boundless
energy and considerable acting and dancing skills made her a favorite in her
era. Her charm lasted; growing up in the 80’s, my parents shared Shirley Temple’s
films with me. They’re happy, musical, and might be a reasonable alternative to
Disney’s animated lineup. In Curly Top, the seven-year-old Temple stars as
Elizabeth Blair, a happy young girl at an orphanage whose energy and
boisterousness often get her in trouble with the matrons. Her twenty-year-old
sister, Mary, works in the orphanage doing various tasks. One day, Elizabeth is
singing a song in the dining hall which riles up the other children.
Unfortunately for Elizabeth, the board of directors is visiting this day. The
superintendent is a sour old man who is perturbed by her exuberance and demands
that she be sent away. Mercifully, another board member – the young, suave
Edward Morgan, takes a liking to both Elizabeth and Mary. He wishes to provide
for them, and arranges for them to be taken to his house. There’s a catch,
though. Edward knows that Elizabeth has been expected to be profusely grateful
for everything that ever comes her way. He does not want her to have such
expectations on her any more – he wants her to be able to be carefree and to be
able to take some things for granted. (In a way, that’s kind of what Maslow’sHierarchy of Needs suggests needs to happen in order for people to thrive –read about Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs for kids in foster care here…). Morgan
decides that the best way to accomplish this is to provide for her without
letting it be known that he is the one doing the providing. He crafts a story
wherein a fictional friend named Hiram Jones sends for Elizabeth and Mary. They
enjoy their new, luxurious lives even though they don’t immediately know the
source.
How is This Relevant
to Adoption?
Even in this eighty-year-old film, Shirley Temple’s
character captures some of the real concerns that face children in foster care
today. She worries about – and is loyal to - her sister. She prays for her
pets. She tries to ingratiate herself to those in power over her, but sometimes
her age-appropriate behaviors land her in hot water and – unfortunately –
threaten the stability of her placement. Like many children in foster care, Elizabeth’s
future is determined by the thoughts (and whims, and reactions) of adults.
Children in foster care often are placed or moved in response to thought
processes that they never knew about; they’re in the dark about the people
driving their lives – much as how Elizabeth didn’t understand how or why she
ended up in her new home. In Elizabeth’s case, the change was a positive one. I’m
hoping that for your kids, the change was also a positive one (and the fact
that you’re reading about how to use film to have open conversations with them
suggests that it was!). But some of the changes that they’ve experienced in
their journey through foster care or adoption may have been negative – and certainly
several of those changes involved loss. Not knowing how these changes come
about can certainly be disempowering to children – and can also threaten their
sense of stability. Communication is so important in every relationship – even the
relationship between a child and the parents and professionals making decisions
on her behalf.
Prospective adoptive parents might be able to relate to
Edward. Once he has his heart set on adopting Elizabeth, he envisions her
everywhere in his life and describes it as being “mad – delightfully mad!”
Strong Points
The
loyalty and love between sisters Mary and Elizabeth is portrayed very strongly.
Even
though they are stern, the orphanage matrons obviously love the children in
their care – even the exasperatingly exuberant Elizabeth.
Edward
Morgan’s butler is a particularly good friend to Elizabeth. She is uncertain of
household rules, and she asks the butler to tell her if she ever does anything
inappropriate. It’s helpful to have someone kindly explain what the expected behavior
is in a new environment.
Elizabeth
eventually is able to express to Edward Morgan that she wants to live with him
forever. And – happily – she gets to!
Edward
Morgan is dedicated to Elizabeth. He celebrates what other people complain
about. He even writes a song about her!
Challenges
Curly
Top isn’t just set in a different
time period. It was made in a
different time period. Kids will need to be helped to understand the
differences (and perhaps, the similarities) between life today and life in the
1930’s.
Also
– Edward Morgan adopts Elizabeth and marries her sister Mary. This is done
innocently, and I think it’s more confusing than creepy. Kids need to know that
this won’t happen today.
Concerns
One
of the orphan matrons speaks negatively to Elizabeth about Elizabeth’s parents,
“your late mother and father were in theatrical work, and therefore you came
into here without a proper sense of discipline.”
It
does seem, for a while, that Elizabeth will be removed from the home.
It
seems that the orphanage decides to punish Elizabeth by taking away her pets.
One
adult tells Elizabeth, “You’re a bad and wicked child – you know that, don’t
you?” She is called a problem and incorrigible.
As
much as Edward Morgan means well, his character poses some significant
problems. Admittedly, some of these problems may be due to the age of the film –
but some of them, not so much. He approaches Elizabeth as a benevolent,
wealthy, and to some extent omnipotent helper. He does care for her, but his
care is delivered in a somewhat less-than-therapeutic way. He sits down with
her and asks her name. She says, “Elizabeth Blair.” He says, “I’ve got a much better
name for you than that.” Later, he
decides to legally adopt her while at the same time hiding his identity from
her. He tells the orphanage director, “I’ll adopt her, but I’ll tell her I’m
acting for a client.” Morgan hasn’t
taken an interest only in Elizbaeth. He eventually proposes to marry her sister
Mary. Romantic in the film – problematic in real life.
Recommendations and Conclusions
Curly
Top is worth seeing. I noted several concerns, but I think they’ll be overcome fairly easily.
At its heart, this is a happy, kid-friendly, musical movie about a family being
made. Secrecy is replaced by truth and a child finds a loving family.
Questions for
Discussion
(If your child has previously lived in a group home) – I know
you used to live in a large home with many children. What do you remember about
it? How was it like the Lakeside Orphanage? What was different about it?
Elizabeth didn’t always know where she would be living or
who her parents would be. Do you ever
feel confused? What would you like to know?
What about writing a song about your child?
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