Tuesday, October 13, 2015
Pan Adoption Movie Review
A tearful mother leaves her infant son on the steps of an
orphanage. It is a dreary night in pre-World-War Two London. As she leaves, she
puts a necklace around him, which features a pan flute charm. As she leaves,
she says, “I love you, my son, my Peter.” She leaves a letter with him, and
walks away into the night.
Twelve years later, Peter is still in the orphanage.
Although the nuns who run the orphanage are cruel and selfish, Peter has kept
his hopes up, and waits for the day that his mother will come back to him.
(*SPOILERS AHEAD THE REST OF THE WAY, but worth reading if
you’re considering taking your kids.*)
Peter’s mom does not come back for him. Instead, one of the
nuns sells Peter and all the other boys to a band of pirates, led by
Blackbeard, who intend to use the boys for slave labor in faraway mines. Peter learns
that he is related to some of the enemies of those pirates, who believe that
Peter will be able to help. Peter only agrees to do so in the hopes of finding
his mother (Big Spoiler but important to know -- he does not find her. She has already been
killed by Blackbeard. He only finds a memory of her.)
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The Adoption
Connection
There’s a lot here, and it’s not good. Peter’s mother speaks
lovingly to him, but does abandon him on the street in a dark night, and he
falls into the care of cruel people. (Spoilers ahead) He perpetually waits and
hopes to see his mother again, but basically does not. He finds the letter that
she wrote for him after searching through locked and forbidden storage, which definitely
is relevant to adoption, but once he finds the letter from his mother, a nun
takes it away and rips it up in front of his face, telling Peter that he is not
special, that his mother will not come for him, and that in fact, he was
abandoned by someone who already has forgotten that Peter exists. Even after
this, Peter remains hopeful that he will find his mother, and although many
adults use his hope to manipulate him into doing their will, he only finds a
memory of his mother. He never does find her because she has already been
killed by Blackbeard, who boasts truthfully to Peter about killing her. It’s pretty
awful.
Peter makes friends with a man whose mother left him behind.
The man says that he doesn’t waste tears on someone who doesn’t miss him. Peter
questions that, suggesting that maybe the man’s mother does miss him.
Strong Points
Peter does get some version of his birth family’s history
told to him.
There’s some camaraderie between Peter and other boys in his
similar situation.
When Peter (somewhat) communicates with his mother, she
affirms “You have my heart.”
Peter speaks out a true sentiment of many adoptees, “I love
you mom, so much. I’m not sure how you can miss someone you’ve never met, but I
love you and miss you every day, and (I’ve dreamed of meeting you) my whole
life.”
Challenges
Peter’s mother explains the abandonment, “What I’ve done, I’ve
done because I love you. I long for the day I can come back and explain
everything to you. Don’t doubt me, don’t doubt yourself. I promise that you
will see me again in this world or another.” However, she did abandon him in
the dark. Peter’s strong hope to be reunified with his mother is only partially
fulfilled, and the lasting flavors are of disappointment, loss, and cruelty.
Peter makes friends, of sorts, with two adults. Both try to
manipulate him. One tells him outright, “I’m not your friend. I don’t care
about you. I don’t have your back.” One, when confronted with the manipulation,
explains basically that being an adult means that you lie sometimes. Another
explains, “If we told you the truth, you’d have walked away…” In dejection,
Peter throws away the last shred of his mother’s letter.
Both of Peter’s parents are dead.
One character affirms that Peter’s mother would have been
proud of him, but another refutes that., saying “Mom would be very
disappointed, wouldn’t she?”
One character explains that home isn’t where you come from,
it’s where you make it. Although some adoptive families might latch on to that
phrase, in the film, it’s given to Peter by someone who’s trying to manipulate him.
Weak Points
This film has, quite possibly, the worst orphanage I’ve seen
in a movie. The orphanage sells the boys as slaves. The lead nun hides Peter’s
birth records (a letter from his mother), and when he finds it, she destroys it
in front of his face, telling him “Every little orphan believes he’s special.
You’re not special. Just a little creature, abandoned by a feckless creature
who has forgotten you exist.” Then she punishes him further by injuring him
physically. This nun is worse than Despicable Me’s Miss Hattie.
Another nun
tells Peter that he’s lucky to get any food at all. The nuns almost mock the
thought of having regard for the boys’ safety.
Peter is abandoned by his mother at the beginning of the
film.
There’s a scene of child abduction. Scary men snatch boys
right out of their beds and take them away. A nun kicks Peter into his abductor’s
grasp. One of Peter’s kidnappers laughs
at Peter’s hope of seeing his mother.
A man kills a child on-screen by sending the child
plummeting to his death. Mercifully we don’t see
the impact.
Blackbeard holds public executions. The crowd calls for
peter’s death.
Blackbeard boasts to Peter, “You’ll never find your mother,
Peter. I killed her myself. Now I’ll kill you.”
Recommendations
This isn’t really a kids’ movie. Peter is able to express
the strong feelings of his heart with regard to his mother, which is positive.
However, there are so many concerning aspects (child abduction, child
abandonment, child abuse, manipulation and lies regarding a child’s birth
history, and a general letdown of hope) that this one is hard to recommend. It’s
being critically panned, too, so this is probably a safe one to skip. Maybe parents
of teenagers could watch it with their 15-and-up teens as a way to talk about
feelings of longing, loss, and grief, but it’s going to be pretty rough for most
kids younger than that.
Questions for
Discussion
How can you deal with it when you really hope for something,
but don’t get it?
When a child has been lied to by an adult, how can they learn
to trust others? How can they know when they are safe?
If you could say anything to a loved one who you’ve never
met, what would it be?
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Thank you so much for this review! We were going to see it this weekend, but I might hold off on this for now until my son is a bit older.
ReplyDeleteThanks for your comment, Kelly. I was surprised how much this one touched on adoption issues. Hotel Transylvania 2 (and maybe Goosebumps) seem better, and those reviews are on the site too :)
ReplyDeleteThank you for this site. Just flipped on Pan on HBO to watch with my nearly 7 y.o. (private adoption). She burst into tears just minitea in while I made a snack so I hit pause and ran here to see where the story was headed and if I shold turn it off. Which I did. Now I know to come here first!!
ReplyDeleteThank you for this site. Just flipped on Pan on HBO to watch with my nearly 7 y.o. (private adoption). She burst into tears just minitea in while I made a snack so I hit pause and ran here to see where the story was headed and if I shold turn it off. Which I did. Now I know to come here first!!
ReplyDeleteHi Julie - thanks for commenting and for letting me know how the site was helpful. Pan wasn't so great, and it got poor reviews critically, so it was probably an OK movie to skip. There are better ones out there!
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